LGBTQ posts (nonreligious only)

I’m known for my LGBTQ work in Christian spaces, but the blog posts on this page are primarily nonreligious in nature.

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Why do people “come out”?

People often ask me why so many LGBT people feel the need to “come out.” In honor of National Coming Out Day, here are two previous posts of mine to explain why I think coming out is important. Why do you have to tell people you’re gay? Too Much Information?

Is it a choice? No. Does that matter? Absolutely.

In the 18 years since I first came out as gay, I feel like I’ve heard discussions on “Is it a choice?” about a million times. And for 18 years, my answer has continued to be the same: You can choose your behavior. You cannot choose your orientation. People can choose who to date, kiss, or sleep with. They ...

Gay pride festivals: a real-life follow-up.

On Friday, I answered a reader question about why some gay people dress or act provocatively at Gay Pride events. Imagine my surprise when, only hours after I published that post, a friend informed me that there was a local LGBT festival going on near me the very next day! So with that reader’s question still in ...

“If being gay isn’t about sex, why are pride parades so sexual?”

A reader wrote: I have no comments but a question. If it is not about sex, then why have the gay pride parades across the nation that promote sexual acts. The way people dress in the parades flaunts sexual acts, shows nudity etc. Why must they be outlandish in the dress and behavior? Just saying. If ...

Question from a mother

A mom writes: My teenage daughter recently told me that she is bisexual. I told her thank you for sharing such a huge fact with me and for trusting me and that I am honored by her trust. I told her I love her and that God loves her and she will never be punished for ...


Today, the webcomic Doghouse Diaries posted this comic: I laughed, because I relate. I mean, it’s true, right? When someone tells you about their child, you don’t instantly think about sex, even though in most cases, it took a sex act to create the child. But when someone talks specifically about their child’s conception, suddenly a whole bunch ...

When fairy tales blow your mind.

When fairy tales blow your mind.
I thought I knew the story of the Ugly Duckling. There was more to the story I didn’t know—and as a gay man, it made me cry.