Questions from Christians #5: “Isn’t calling yourself a gay Christian like calling yourself an adulterous Christian?”

Part 5 in my series of questions Christians ask about gay people. An open letter to Christians everywhere about the “adulterous Christian” analogy. Dear Christians of the world: Please, please, please don’t use this analogy. I know what you mean, but this one really ticks gay people off, and it gets you nowhere. Here’s why. … Read more…

Questions from Christians #4: “Why do you have to tell people you’re gay? Can’t you keep it in the bedroom?”

Part 4 in my series of questions Christians ask about gay people. Today’s question is suuuuuuper common, and gay people hear it in a lot of different ways: “Why do you have to let people know you’re gay?” “Isn’t your sexuality a private matter?” “Can’t you keep it in the bedroom? I don’t tell people … Read more…

Questions from Christians #3: “Why do you have gay pride parades? We don’t have straight pride parades. (And isn’t pride a sin?)”

Part 3 in my series of questions Christians ask about gay people. Gay pride parades/marches are popular for a number of reasons: They provide a sense of community to people who have sometimes been isolated and outcast, even from their own families. They bring attention to political or social causes that are important to many … Read more…

Questions from Christians #2: “Why do gay people want to redefine marriage? What’s their real goal?”

Part 2 in my series of questions Christians ask about gay people. (The image is of Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, the first same-sex couple to legally marry in San Francisco. At the time of their civil marriage, they had been together for more than 50 years.) First, let’s get four things out of the … Read more…

Questions from Christians #1: “Doesn’t the Bible say it’s a sin to be gay?”

This is by far the most common question I get about faith and sexuality. It’s a huge, complicated question, but people always want a short, simple answer. You want short? Okay, here goes. Question: Doesn’t the Bible say it’s a sin to be gay? Short Answer: No. That’s the most concise answer I can give. … Read more…