Because I’m known for LGBT-affirming work in Christian spaces, many of these resources and posts are aimed at a Christian audience. If you’d prefer, you can view only secular LGBT posts.
Common questions about gay Christians
- “Doesn’t the Bible say it’s a sin to be gay?”
- “Why do you have gay pride parades? We don’t have straight pride parades.”
- “Why do you have to tell people you’re gay? Can’t you keep it in the bedroom?”
- “Isn’t calling yourself a gay Christian like calling yourself an adulterous Christian?”
- “Shouldn’t your identity be in Christ, not your sexuality?” (Also see this follow up.)
The Bible and homosexuality
The Bible is important to me, and my study of it has influenced all the theology in my writings and videos. That said, if you’re looking for the simplest, most accessible explanation of what I believe and why, check out my book Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate.
Want a deeper dive into “those passages”? Visit my Bible and Homosexuality page for videos and articles on the subject.
Most popular posts
Here are some of my most popular posts on LGBT issues. Check them out, or view a complete list of all my LGBT blog posts.
- What Disney’s Frozen can teach you about LGBT people—and their families.I wrote this piece when Frozen had just premiered in theaters. It quickly went viral and remains one of the most popular things I’ve ever written. These days, you might be sick of Frozen, but I think these are lessons worth remembering.
- Four ways Christians are getting the gay debate wrong.After basketball star Jason Collins came out as gay, a lot of Christians missed the mark with their responses. Here are four things you should never do—from a fellow Christian.
- You love gay people? That’s great. Prove it.My conservative Christian friends often say they are misunderstood: “I don’t hate gay people! I love them!” Okay, then. Show me that with your actions. Here’s how.
- Can bisexuals be monogamous?I’m often asked if bisexuals are incapable of monogamy, since they’re attracted to both sexes. Here’s how I answered a reader with that question.
- When fairy tales blow your mind.I thought I knew the story of the Ugly Duckling. There was more to the story I didn’t know—and as a gay man, it made me cry.
- Homosexuality: It’s not what you think.As a sheltered Christian kid, what I thought “homosexuality” meant was really different from what it actually means. Here’s what I wish I’d understood—because it would have changed how I felt about gay people.
- My passionate 10-minute pitch for LGBT affirmation at a conservative Christian university.A Christian university invited me to publicly explain, in ten minutes, why I disagree with their policy on LGBT students and same-sex relationships. Here’s the video of that speech and the Q&A that followed. (I’ve also included a transcript of my speech itself.)
- A Christian perspective on transgender people.A reader asks what I think a Christian perspective on being transgender should be. I think the answer is simple—even though the question is complicated.
- Can you feel the sex tonight?As a teenager, I thought that straight couples were about love and gay couples were about sex. I was wrong.